Don’t let the thought of a massage make you uneasy! Anyone can give a sensual massage with the right tools. Start with the basics and learn as you go. If you take the time to give your spouse a little extra special attention, you’ll enjoy each massage more and more. Whether you are the giver or the receiver, a sensual massage can be a great way to relax, romance and connect with your spouse.
Here is a few tips for you to try at home with your partner:
For women: “A man fall in love through his eyes” – so wear some sexy lingerie or harness, something appropriate like silk or lace chemise. You husband or partner will LOVE to have that silkiness glide across his skin while you are massaging his back muscles. Bear in mind, that the moves and strokes of an erotic massage are much more gentle, softer and lighter than the ones used in a regular one. The slower you stroke, the more your partner will relax. And more relaxation means a more intense sensation. Even if your massage is going to include the genitals, or if the intention is to have sex at the end, take your time and prolong the pleasure. Just brush the genitals lightly, then stroke away, up or down the body. The slower the build-up, the more powerful the sexual energy.
For men: Women like to be touched…especially by their significant other. Set the atmosphere and start off slow. Take your time like you’ve never taken your time before. It is comforting and stimulating at the same time. You want to relax her and to calm her – so don’t press too hard. Have some fun — tease her and increase anticipation by touching her lightly and keeping things slow and deliberate. Always watch breath and calibrate as you gradually build speed and intensity. Be alert to her body’s responses to you and you can’t go wrong.
For your love nest: This should be a comfortable area that is playful and relaxed. First, clear the room of any attention-grabbing clutter. Next, decorate with flowers, candles and cozy fabrics. Scent is really important to our sensuality, so try natural oils like jasmine, ylang-ylang, or rose. Make sure your bed is as comfortable as possible with soft sheets and a number of pillows. Lastly, chose a soundtrack of music that you both like. Play it softly in the background to enhance your mood. Remember, when you spend time creating your love nest, you’re telling your partner that he or she matters to you, and that their pleasure is precious. It’s one of the most loving gifts you can give.
Remember…it is sensual, it is romantic and you are in charge of of your sensual desires and creating a breath taking and love-making session.